Unfortunately, most people will face rejection at some point, whether it is from a prospective employer, a friend, or someone of the opposite sex. It’s hard not to take the situation personally when not chosen, but there are ways to cope with this difficulty.
Analyze the Situation When Rejected
In some cases, such as in love, there may be no explanations. Sometimes the person on the receiving end of affection does not feel it back and that’s all there is to it. But it’s a good idea to take an objective look at things to see if the fault lies within, so that if it is, the problem can be corrected for the next time around.
This is especially true in the case of rejection for a job. Think carefully about the attire worn to the interview, check resume over for errors, consider the answers to questions asked. This way, skills and appearance will be polished for the next job interview.
Take Explanations at Face Value Sometimes
Everyone dreads the line, “It’s not you, it’s me.” Or, “I need some space.” It’s easy to begin obsessing when these lines are uttered. “What did I do wrong, what’s the matter with me?” Although self reflection is good, to a point, there comes a time when it is no longer helpful.
Sometimes, it really isn’t about the person being rejected. Other people just have issues in their own lives at times that make them unable to focus on a relationship or friendship right then. If there was no wrong doing on the part of the rejected, just let it go.
Stay Surrounded by Loved Ones
Rejection hurts, no matter what the source is. It’s important to take the time to recover, and spend quality time with family and friends. When feeling low, it’s good to be around people who see all the good in someone.
Get Out and Try Dating Again
Once rejected, it can seem easier to not take chances rather than risk more rejection. Although this is certainly an understandable reaction, it’s hard to get ahead in any area of life without taking some chances. Just because rejection happened once doesn’t mean it would happen again, and even if it did, so what? No one can win everything or everyone. Trying is the only way to know if the person or situation desired is attainable.
No one likes to be rejected, but it happens. Take steps to avoid rejection in the future, if possible, and spend time with family and friends to help take the sting out of the situation. Try to remember that sometimes rejection really isn’t personal, and the only way to get the desired end result is to try for it.