First date conversation should be light and natural, not stressful. Even the shy and timid can make a great first impression and have fun dating new people with the right conversation starter. Learn more on a first date and avoid dead-ends with these comfortable conversation topics.
5 Safe First Date Conversation Topics
The goal on a first date is to learn about the other person and decide if there is enough interest, common ground, or spark to want to learn more! These five topics lead to open conversation without running the risk of becoming too personal on the first date. Kick off the conversation by asking open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no.
- Common Ground – A shared gym, walking trail, favorite coffee shop, or mutual friend are all great conversation topics. Keep it positive and see where it goes.
- Food and Drink – Discussing favorite foods is a safe, easy way to keep the conversation going. Avoid too much talk about alcoholic drinks until it is clearly a safe topic.
- Hobbies and Interests – Reading, sports, TV shows, board games, collections, music, and spare time activities can lead to interesting conversations.
- The Surrounding Area – Fill in awkward gaps in conversation by observing the surroundings and chatting about an interesting article of clothing someone is wearing, a magazine lying on a table, or whatever else is at hand.
- Travel or Other Adventures – Even if they haven’t traveled, most people have a place or two they would like to visit in their lifetime.
Actively listen and participate in the conversation, watching for verbal or non-verbal clues that it is time to try a new topic. If a date ever appears uncomfortable, fidgety, or bored, move on!
3 Fun Dating Conversation Starter Ideas
Commit a few fun dating conversation starter ideas to memory. Use these open-ended questions to fill a lull in the conversation.
- Have You Ever? – Ask a date if he has ever gone hang gliding, burned an important meal, accomplished a goal, read a really inspirational book, or anything else that comes to mind. This is a great way to start an interesting conversation and learn more about a date!
- Best/Worst? – Keep the topic neutral and ask the date’s opinion on the best and worst current music albums, new movie releases, bestselling books, or any other common interest.
- Hypothetically Speaking – Hypothetical questions can be great conversation starters. Try, “If you could have any job…” “If you could retire tomorrow…” or “If you could move anywhere in the world, where would you go?”
Don’t worry if a conversation starter doesn’t lead to a lengthy chat. Just move on to a new topic!
How to Avoid a First Date Conversation Killer
The following topics can lead to heated opinions, hurt feelings, or sheer boredom. Avoid these conversation topics on a first date.
- Creepy/scary subjects
- Health problems
- How much something (a job, a boss, a parent, an apartment) sucks
- “Me, me, me” subjects
Have Fun Dating and Chatting with Appropriate Conversation Topics
The beauty of dating new people is that each person has something different to offer. The art of conversation requires careful listening and full attention; lead the conversation only as much as is necessary, then sit back and enjoy learning something new!