You never have a second chance to make a first impression. On a first date, you’ll be judged on the things you say and how you act, so it’s a good idea to refresh your knowledge of great conversation tips. Here are a few things you’ll want to avoid on a first date.
Fail to Prepare
Never come to a date without money or a cell phone. It’s embarrassing and leaves a poor impression if you need to borrow money from your date. If you’re running late, a cell phone will help notify her that you aren’t ditching your date, you’ll simply be arriving a few minutes behind.
Blurt Out Inappropriate Comments
First dates make people very nervous. As a result you may feel the need to tell the date she looks so much better than her picture, or that you really think she’s hot, or that you didn’t think her hair would be as red as it is. Whatever the first impression you get, temper it with common sense. Compliments are wonderful but inappropriate comments are not.
Never stare at your date, or for that matter, other women in the coffee shop. It’s a good idea to look at your date and listen thoughtfully. But looking and staring are two different things. Never make your date feel uncomfortable, and always ensure you look your date in the eye.
Bring Up Exes
Your ex-girlfriend has no place in any conversation on a first date. There will be plenty of time to talk about your exes, but for the first date you want to make sure you are getting to know the lady in front of you. Save talk about exes for a time when both of you know each other a little better.
Use the Date as a Therapy Session
Too often guys use a first date to complain about the previous women in their life. They might believe that the girl in front of them will be able to explain why a previous girlfriend acted the way she did. However, any conversation that doesn’t focus on your new date will prevent you from getting to know her. More than that, asking about the reasons women do certain things may turn her off.
Monopolize the Conversation
Guys have a habit of talking a bit too much when they are nervous. You might feel the best way to get to know your date is to tell her all about yourself, but in reality you’d be better off listening more than talking. Allow for a natural pause in conversation and don’t feel the need to fill it up with more words. Ask your date questions about herself, then sit quietly and let her talk.
First dates are an exciting part of meeting someone new. When you spend the date asking thoughtful questions, you’ll have a better idea on whether to ask the girl out for a second outing. Don’t forget to have something in mind for a second date idea so you can mention it before you leave. You’ll have a better chance of getting a second date if you ask right away on the first.